Over the years I have struggled with the question “Who am I ?”. Well of course as a stay at home mom and housewife I have always thought what will happen after the kids are grown? Lately for some reason I have been on this search to discover what and who I am meant to be.
As my children get older I am often asked the question “what are you going to do when they are in school all day?”. I always thought that I would stay home but as more people began asking the question the more my mind started going. What will I do when the kids are in school all day? Then I asked myself, is being a mom and a housewife enough? Shouldn’t I do more? Isn’t there a bigger purpose to my life?
Yes, there is a bigger purpose to my life……it’s being a mom and a housewife. I haven’t lost my identity staying home. I’m not sheltered from the world around me. I don’t stay in pajamas and watch TV all day. God has blessed me with being able to stay home and I do have a job. I may not get up every morning and shuffle my kids out the door and hurry to get to my place of employment but I do get up every morning and work all day long. I love my job and I am sad that I ever started to waiver thinking that it wasn’t enough. It’s more than enough! I enjoy cooking, cleaning and everything else that goes along with “keeping a house”. It’s my job. I take pride in my home.
What ever you have decided to do in life don’t let the world around you tell you what you have to do or that you have to be more. Be happy with what you have. Enjoy it. If you are a stay at home mom or housewife be happy and joyful doing it. Fall in love with the life you have been given. Quit looking over your shoulder worrying about what others think of you. When you face each day with a positive attitude positive things will happen. I got in the habit of going through the motions of everyday and I forgot how much I enjoyed “just being home”.
For some there may be more for them than staying home and there is nothing wrong with that, but for some it is more than enough to be home and either way is ok. Who we are is not defined by careers, titles, and money, it’s what we do with the the blessings we have been given. I am done worrying about what others think and I am done searching for something more. I have everything I have ever wanted and I am going to start to enjoy it. I encourage you to enjoy what ever it is you have been given. Live in the moment, love each day and don’t forget that we may only have the moment’s we’re in so enjoy them!! xoxo!!!
I encourage you to comment on your journey! I would love to hear from you!
I can’t tell you how much I needed this! I’ve been struggling with wondering what I’m going to do when my daughter, the youngest of our six children, goes to full day kindergarten next year. I was waitressed for 3 years but my recent diagnoses of fibromyalgia forced me to quit. I was advised by my doctor to consider something that gave me the ability to do physical work but not extremely demanding…where I could sit and stretch when needed. Honestly, I feel so much better just in the month I’ve had off since leaving my job! That said, I’ve felt guilty not knowing what to do or having anything lined up for secular work. I’ve been praying that God leads me to a career that I will do well at and love. I feel like I haven’t been getting any answers…maybe that’s because I’m where He wants me to be right now? I love having a clean house almost all the time now! I love being able to cook and bake homemade wholesome food for my family! I love that I now have the time to work on all those projects that I’ve been wanting to get done. I’m not saying that something else isn’t in my future, but this post reminded me to be content where I am right now. 🙂
I am so happy that this spoke to your heart!!! It’s so easy to “worry” about what’s next that we often forget to enjoy what we have now. I struggle with this all the time. I think as a society we have to stop feeling “guilty” and start enjoying life. Trust me I battle the demon of guilt ALL the time. Thanks for commenting! It was nice to hear from you! ~Jamie